(Words) Fellas (and some of you ladies), this is how you sound on the subject of sex/females.

I probably don't need to 'elaborate' on this but JUST IN CASE SOME OF YOU WANT TO FEIGN IGNORANCE AND ACT LIKE YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I AM TRYING TO SAY...LET ME BE REAL FUCKING CLEAR.


A WHOLE LOT OF YOU DON'T KNOW EXACTLY 'HOW TO FEEL' ABOUT WOMEN HAVING SEX YET YOU WANT SEX FROM THEM. You want to be able to feel 'high and mighty' and like you are 'getting over' when you do it so that when things go 'awry', it won't be 'your fault' or that you will 'somehow' be the one who has 'won'. As if this shit is some sort of pissing contest. That is what the above caption is alluding to. All you pompous ass mofos out here who ought to be happy you even get your dick wet to begin with (and all you prudish ass girls who sit on the sidelines...cackling it up..like you don't do shit.) complaining at EVERY TURN about a women doing something that you 'think you are entitled to' to begin with. I almost want to tell women to turn the 'pussy facet' off on you lame niggas for a GOOD WHILE so maybe you will get it. For real. Just from the outside looking in, it is a 'hard road'. The kicker....



Some of you aren't even GETTING PUSSY out here complaining about what they should and shouldn't do. 

Now I'm all for shared responsibility and taking ownership of one's faults so by NO MEANS ARE WOMEN ON A WHOLE UNACCOUNTABLE FOR SHIT BUT SOME OF YOU DUDES OUT HERE who are acting the way the caption up top reads are WHY THEY COME OFF LIKE THEY DO. I don't blame them. Sorry.*







*Aww you are just some 'lonely blogger' who wrote this shit who is probably (insert your favorite thing that you think everyone should have that you just got that you don't realize that most of us have had, sold it, bought again and sold it back again, including ME, material thing here) doesn't have........- You. 

I started writing this when Sportscenter came on at 6:00..It is now 6:04..this is light work my niggas. Doesn't take much thought for me. I am not YOU. It doesn't strain my brain to type up some quick 'get right' for you niggas and then get back to what I'm doing. Catch up though....
 

(Words) Some things are better left between you and your lawyer. Dude admits to smashing 14 years old basically..

..on that lovely social tool we know as Twitter.

This won't be too long (or at least I don't plan on it being that long)....


I tried to do a little research into the young man in question before I just out and out blasted him. Maybe see if he were say '17ish-19ish' and coming to grips with the fact that the age he is speaking on is a 'pond he can no longer fish in'.. Nope. Not the case. What leads me to that conclusion is the fact that he used a '24 year old' woman in his original statement and some other little small factors.* Maybe if THAT is the perspective that he was coming from, I MAY have given leeway to even Rting him and/or making the post. 


Alas, he is a grown ass man tweeting that. All the way grown and for that he is wrong. I mean if HE FEELS THAT WAY about knocking off random 14 year old girls, he needs to just say THAT. Not 'any man' would. Furthermore, even if you DID FEEL THAT WAY, THE LAW STATES THAT IT IS WRONG and last I checked, although you can't be locked up for saying that, any and all contact with anyone underage by him would probably be looked at in a suspect light. 

Now I want you guys to forget I'm a Father of a girl (and other little girls who will be Lord willing) that age just for two paragraphs. I am going to speak as a man. 'Cause I didn't JUST GET THE IDEA THAT TALKING TO A 14 YEAR GIRL AND BEING CASUAL ABOUT IT WAS 'JUST RIGHT' when I became a Father. Nope. It hasn't set right with me for a long time. You see, I had a COUPLE OF FOLKS tell me that I needed to stop fishing out of that pond when I became of age. (I started having that said to me my SR year of high school actually..) So I did. Clearly, as I stated in the UP TOP, I do have some 'empathy' for a dudes who weren't told this** because like the young man whose tweet I posted up, they aren't being properly mentored that it is no longer acceptable to date someone who is CLEARLY AT A MATURITY DISADVANTAGE (in most cases) than you are. The differences are too vast and quite frankly, most of the times, they are far too vulnerable to fall prey to the things that a dude who is even 19 or so has to offer in the way of money, access to certain things and experience. 

Clearly, homie doesn't see it that way. Now these are the times when I don't feel bad for folks when Fathers, Uncles, brothers, male friends and the like get involved. I don't even want to wish bad on the man by saying "I hope that XYZ happens when he does...." Nope. I want to be proactive and have it NOT HAPPEN TO A LITTLE GIRL IN THE FIRST PLACE. That is my wish. My wishes don't always come true though. I suspect by his language that I am too late actually. That he is speaking from a place of "I'd do it again..." rather than 'I wouldn't mind..." That is why I am putting him on display here today. Hopefully, one of you will reach out to him and let him know in STEREO that his attitude towards teenage girls might lead to VERY BAD THINGS. Again, I am no idiot. So I won't be 'threatening' him print per say. 

Now you can 'remember' that I am a parent again of the little girls....The 'parent' in me has this to say...

NIGGA, IF I EVER CATCH YOU AROUND ANYTHING IN MY HOUSE that is that age,  I WILL PERSONALLY TAKE THE .25 AND LET YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS. Not anything bigger either 'cause I want to get UP CLOSE AND PERSONAL WITH YOU. @ THE CALIBER I CHOSE. In order to do harm, I have to be close and that is what it will be. Up close and VERY PERSONAL. I don't care WHERE YOU ARE FROM EITHER. At all. Funeral homes are all over homie.   I'm pretty sure I'm not alone in these sentiments. @ the Fathers, brothers, uncles, male figures in any of the future 14 year old girls you wouldn't mind 'fucking'... Take it how you want to. NIGGA. I'd be willing to bet your favorite show is TCAP isn't it? You are probably one of those niggas up here making jokes and shit on Twitter huh? 

Look, I won't even hit you with the 'What if it were your.." shit either. Fuck all of that. I hope if you have done it, someone finds out, takes a hot coat hanger and sticks it up in YOU AS FAR AS IT WILL GO, takes it back out, heats it back up and STICKS IT BACK IN YOUR MOUTH DOWN YOUR THROAT AS FAR IT WILL GO. That's how I feel about you and your attitude towards fucking 14 year olds that look like they are 24.....*** 

I think that about covers this week's 'words'. Have a good day ya'll..







*You can feel free to ask the young man his age if you like. I've seen enough personally. I don't have to. Plus, I RETWEETED HIM ON MY TL and he didn't say shit so clearly he doesn't want to address what was said. Probably will after reading this but so what.... It's published now. I stand by it. 

** Even though they should STILL KNOW IT IS WRONG ON SOME LEVEL...


*** PARENTS RAISE YOUR CHILDREN. He is wrong. You are equally wrong if your child isn't wearing AGE appropriate clothing. I know you don't want to HEAR THAT but you are. Period. Stop trying to make your kids look like a MINIATURE YOU MOM. Dads...stay in your daughter's lives and let them know they are PRETTY AS THEY ARE so they don't have to have the need for some dude to tell 'em on a regular basis..

(Video) @9thWonderMusic X @Cbsnews X A Wonderful Professor..

Very nice piece. Kudos to 9th and CBS.

Sonar.....Baltimore, MD...

(Picture) Diddy and Shyne... I'll let ya'll handle the 'jokes'..

I will ask the more serious question.

Wonder what their conversations have been like? I'd be more interested in seeing how they mended, if they even NEEDED TO AS WE ALL SPECULATE ON WHAT THEY HAD GOING ON, their differences/that situation. You know the one.



 I hope they speak on it one or the other. Not in a bad way. I just really want to know. Maybe someone can learn from it. We always want folks to publicly play out their 'issues' for our entertainment and it would be nice to see something that clearly has been resolved on some level get spoken on. Ya'll go on ahead and slander away at the pic though. I'm cool on all of that.

(Video) @young_guru breaks down the Niggas in Paris vs Niggas in Poorest

Courtesy of Rap Radar..


What are YOUR THOUGHTS on what he said?

How did I take it? I took it as a diss AT FIRST but I respect the fact that Mos has the right to speak on the other side of it. What I would LIKE to see is Mos get back to a platform where it doesn't have to be a 'response' to record. (He does MAKE RECORDS ADDRESSING THIS obviously but his platform isn't as big as Jay's. Acting career or not. He isn't getting played on 'non rap playing' radio stations, WSTW comes to mind. They play NIGGAS IN PARIS on their station..) Mr. Keaton kinda touches on that at the end of the video. @ if folks agree with Mos like they say, then give him the platform then...BY SUPPORTING HIM financially when his records come out. That is where my own issue lies with the record. It isn't that I believe he is dissing Jay (and 'Ye) but more about the fact that he KNOWS how folks are. They are gonna take it as a diss. He probably could have cleared it up a bit IHMO as to what his 'real' motive is. (Which is to speak on the other side of things). Or maybe he doesn't care to do so. (Which is my personal opinion. I could be wrong. I can accept that..) Either way, it is nice to see someone articulate that for him as a possible alternative as to how one should 'take the record'. *




*It should be noted that WHILE I AM A HUGE FAN OF JAY AND 'YE, I am actually not CRAZY about "Niggas In Paris' So there is no heat coming from me in that regard.. I don't 'hate' Mos either actually. I think he is pretty dope. I haven't forgotten his 'drunken' rant about Jay though. Sorry. So I know there is history there.

(Video) Mother in Conn. sentenced to 12 years (5 suspended) for enrolling her kid out of district..

She also has to serve 5 years (concurrent) for drug charges in Bristol (Where she allegedly really lived while her son was attending school in Norwalk) Very sad as CLEARLY she was wrong BUT CLEARLY she was just trying to provide for her child. I don't want to play arm chair lawyer on this one 'cause I don't know the 'end result' of her NOT PLEADING GUILTY. All I know is that the child is now without his mother (he is in his grandmother's care). I feel bad for all parties involved. Yes, I understand it is the law. I get that. I just wonder if this could have been handled another way. And ya'll know how I AM ABOUT GIVING 'PASSES' FOR FOLKS AND THEIR BEHAVIOR. Could she have made some better choices in Life earlier? Probably. Now isn't the time for that though. (Maybe later)

(Chuckles) And ya'll wonder why the 'complexion' of the blog looks the way it does sometimes..

lol




It is not my fault this time. I promise. I put 'diversity' up but I got asked by three young ladies of 'darker skin tone' to take their pics 'down'. Coincidence? Probably. Ya'll not gonna see it that way though..lmao. For the record, that is NOT GOING TO STOP ME FROM POSTING UP GALS who look like that. I know better than to take a 'paint brush' and just color everyone who looks like that as a certain 'type'. I'm just pointing out to you why it looks like this AT THIS TIME. 'Cause ya'll have complained before..

Fuck am I gonna do though? Cry? Nope. Keep it moving. Here's the last one... I mean she asked me NOT TO PUT HER PICS UP so I'm gonna grant her wish. (along with the others). That's all I can do. Free promotion to 10k* people a day vs. 2500 followers??? Without permission? What am I doing out here? She might be right though. I need to start asking. So I CAN GET PAID LIKE I SHOULD... @ bring 10k attention to her (and any other person's craft..) That is A NEW SET OF 10K everyday, whether they come back here or not btw. They don't all come back. No need for me to fake like they do. But they see what they saw and they OFTEN leave this page to see who they like. I CAN SEE THAT. Happens every day B. Maybe I ought to post of the DMS, the emails and the like with all the THANK YOUS behind the scenes from those 60k plus following models whose pics I put up when they had a 1000 followers and NOBODY KNEW WHO THEY WERE. The numerous PHOTOGRAPHERS WHO HIT ME WITH THE 'GOOD LOOKING 'cause I saw her on your site, reached to work with her and got a fresh face..". The MAJOR PHOTOGRAPHERS and the ones who are gonna be major..Yeah.. maybe I ought to be like the person I sat down with on Friday (at Friday's no less) with who comes to you from a 'Table with a Nerd point of view' said he was gonna do, I think I might just have to start getting 'Fake Hollywood' out here on cats..lol It isn't in my nature though. -_-. There comes a time though when 'nature' or not, shit like this is gonna wear on me. So anybody I post up from that time TILL THEN, CONSIDER YOURSELF LUCKY. For real. Some folks are fucking it up for you out here. 




(Takes deep breath..) Big picture Carolinaware...BIG PICTURE...Chill...



 Now before you say, 'They are THEIR PICTURES', I UNDERSTAND THAT. Hence the 'pull of them' IMMEDIATELY. Like I just typed to MYSELF however, the picture is BIGGER THAN THAT. You see, there are TONS OF PRETTY GIRLS OUT HERE. Period. Doing and getting done dirty. Which is why they all don't make it. I THOUGHT I was providing something that allows them to SEE WHO IS 'USING' THEIR PICS FOR WHAT, doing it in a good light and it would be a win for all. Understanding that everyone won't always 'agree', I STILL feel like if you had ANY COMMON BUSINESS SENSE, what I do here would NOT DAMAGE what you are doing. No watermarks are EVER CUT OUT. Nobody is over here taking 'credit' for pictures by slapping their OWN WATERMARKS on pictures..(Over and around existing ones like I see some folks do outchea..) Nobody is over here 'Too Short'in' young ladies..Talking up under their skirts. The pics, no matter how classy OR NOT CLASSY THEY ARE, speak for themselves. As stated, THEY TOOK 'EM right? lol Lots of time, I have more (or a better collage) of their pics than they do or at least more in one place so you don't have to search for them. I've 'CORRECTED' more flicks than a little bit too.** Which brings me to another point.

OTHER MODELS FOLLOW THE BLOG. They RT the shit. They are some of those SAME MODELS that might whisper in the ear of that same photographer you want to work with 'Yeah..she's cool..she is about her paper and she promotes..pick her..." Never thought of that, did you? It's a game just like THE REST OF LIFE.

Now if you don't wanna play, or 'this is just something you do on the weekends, for fun, whatever', COOL. Do you. Understand this though... Your favorite model is using it as an ends to a mean TOO and unlike you, they are taking it serious and using it to its FULL POTENTIAL. @ the 'excuses'/reasons... Just know that. You aren't the only one 'not planning to do this forever'...lmao. Your favorite 'urban model' photographer who is WORTH HIS/HER SALT, isn't planning on taking THESE TYPES OF FLICKS FOREVER EITHER. Just know that.

For those of you who have 'read' me give this speech before...at least I was nicer this time. I 'understand' the 'using of pictures' but I also KNOW how and what I am doing and it honestly isn't wrong. I could EASILY NOT @ FOLKS ON TWITTER AND LET THEM 'DISCOVER' who is in the pictures. Or do that other LAME SHIT AND NOT EVEN MENTION THEIR NAME. (Thus, effectively GIVING THEM NO CREDIT FOR THEIR WORK..That to me would be TRULY GRIMY AND I HATE WHEN FOLKS DO THAT.. ) I could do the aforementioned 'watermarking' like I booked the shoot and shit. I do NONE OF THAT. None of it. (Read the sidebar where this is probably gonna get hot linked at.. )

Shit like what I hotlinked up top is what I get every once in awhile though and depending on the day, I might respond. Today is that day.... (drops the mic)


*The stats are set up to read so you guys don't REALLY know that but yeah..I hide some folks proxies 'cause I know THEY ARE KNOWN AND THEY HAVE ASKED ME TO. Others I hide cause they are my peoples or I know they come here ALL THE TIME ANYWAY. I count those but I don't SHOW THOSE STATS. I want to know all of the NEW PEOPLE and for you to see them. So I filter folks out. See...NUMBERS DO LIE. I love Hov but yeah..THEY DO LIE. Trust me. I work with them all the time...)

** Do you know how many times I've fixed Maliah Michel's (You can insert Yaris, Mizz DR, and a HOST OF OTHERS IN HERE TOO)  'camera candids'? There's a reason she RTS my shit. It isn't 'cause I'm paying her. lol She recognized that EVEN THOUGH I DIDN'T TAKE THE PICS, PAY FOR 'EM OR WHATEVER, I DID DO SOMETHING. She also understands MARKETING. The more folks see her pics, the more they are gonna come out to see her in their town. Book her for their shoots. Spend that money.

(Words) Dear Folks in with these 'FantasyLand' ass ideals of a relationship..

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(Words) So WHEN folks DO TELL YOU THEY HAVE SOMEONE & it doesn't matter to you...

You may remember this little post I did on 'Social Networking and everyone not being 'available' on it:


http://thewarehous.blogspot.com/2011/12/words-on-viewing-folks-as-available-on.html


Well, in that post, I PROMISED to touch on what happens when FOLKS DO TELL YOU THAT THEY HAVE SOMEONE and what people STILL PROCEED to talk to the person anyway. Some of you DON'T STOP after you find out. You keep drawing lines in the sand and crossing them off one by one. It is just the truth. You do. No judging you from me believe it or not for DOING IT. I'm standing over here in judgment because you won't admit it. lol Admit it. Some of you know but don't want to look bad out here. It is understandable except for the fact that there is a WHOLE LOT OF YOU OUT HERE. I would even garner a guess that you are close to the majority. It definitely isn't 30/70 out here like folks want you to believe. Nope. Not at all.


Can we stop acting AND FAKING IT OUT HERE? Just once. 'Cause the truth of the matter is this...


Unless you are just a COMPLETE IDIOT, you pretty much know the following:


A. When someone you are interested in might have someone....


B. What you are going to do when they finally tell you dependent on their 'response'... 

It is RARELY  a case of you being COMPLETELY caught off guard at the 'news' that someone has a person in their life. Whether you knowing stems from when you get to talk to to them, see them, or whatever. It is just a matter of when one of the two of you decides to stop playing games and get it out there.

Of course you may have different levels of what you are willing to 'participate in' ONCE YOU FIND OUT if you are out here ignoring signals but you aren't cutting folks off. FOH with that 'indignant' I'mma leave 'em alone after my feelings are all up in it. How do I know? It is simple.


The first time your 'senses' (especially you self proclaimed KNOW IT ALL TYPES..) tells you that they may have someone instead of fleeing what do you do? You start to come up with 'excuses' why either it isn't true or it is okay to 'continue'. Lets just tell the truth. Which in turn, is why I personally don't wanna hear the self righteous, "I would never talk to taken..." crap when I KNOW FOR A FACT 90% OF YOU ARE SMART ENOUGH TO KNOW WHEN SOMEONE IS TAKEN. Now let me reiterate that I don't 'CARE' who you talk to. Taken or not. I really don't. You just aren't gonna be out here shaming folks who 'do get caught up out here talking to/dealing with/seeing/flirting/texting/fucking/whatever' like you are as pure as undriven in snow, when you DO THE SAME THING. That's all I'm saying. Miss me ALL THE WAY with that shit. 

Again, I understand there are different levels of things. 

Some of you are out here looking for your 'ego' boost that you currently aren't getting from either your MAN/WOMEN or due to the lack of a 'claimable'* man or woman in your life. So you aren't going to do much but flirt and share a pic or two. Maybe a phone call is about as far as you are going. 




Some of you....just....LOOK...YOU KNOW YOURSELF. You know you are in it to win it. Once you lock in, you go on ahead and shoot your target. You just can't put down your spear. You gotta get that kill. Men and women. It isn't one particular gender so don't come at me with that. I've seen it. If you are like this and you aren't out here RUNNING at the first signs of someone being involved, you are NO BETTER THAN THE FOLKS YOU WANT TO RIP for 'getting caught'. Understand that. Some of you act like you are. You need to stop.



Oh and WHILE I AM UP HERE.. This 'Skype/Ovoo/me thing some of ya'll have going on. Yeah.. Now, EVEN IF YOU ARE CLEAR about your intentions about getting on Skype with someone, I gotta wonder about what they REALLY ARE if you are doing it from your bedroom, changing clothes in front of a nigga, skyping with your shirt off and all of that. Blurry line man. That's all I'm saying. Let me see you Skype a cat from the backyard or the Grocery Store so I know it is real or some other generic place so I know it is real. All the videos (that were leaked by some cowardly folks) seem to take place in REAL INTIMATE places..if you know what I mean... What else is one to think?

You can't get mad if someone EXPECTS MORE if you are CLAMORING TO SEE THEM IN REAL TIME via a video. You just can't. Lets stop the charade. Again..it doesn't mean they 'own you' or anything dumb like that but lets just stop acting like 'hearing and seeing them' isn't some type of stimulation and can't be confused with something else. **



*Almost everyone has some 'options' out here. It is whether or not you decide to 'claim your prizes' @ those folks that like you. Again, I'm no idiot. Unless you live in a bubble, there is always a 'someone' ALWAYS. Very few of you are TAKING TRUE HIATUSES out here between relationships/bonding experiences/fuck buddying GONE TOO FAR/ETC/ETC....So yeah. There's always someone. Never forget that.


**Unless of course it is STRICTLY BUSINESS for your WORK and MANDATED by your company. Just want to put that out there. All skyping/videoing isn't bad. Even if it isn't for work. Some of ya'll are banging under false pretenses though and you know it.

(Words) Ah..searching for others pain on Twitter...the Life of ya'lls idols on the Net I tell ya..

INSERT THE USUALLY WITTY PICTURE I PUT UP HERE. NO PICTURES TODAY. JUST WORDS. No Pictionary for you today. Sorry.

The fact that some of ya'lls Modus operandi (M.O.) OUTCHEA IN THESE STREETS IS TO GARNER ATTENTION via other folks misery ALL THE TIME is some sad shit. We, as in black people/minorities/down trodden/whatever, ALWAYS WANT TO CITE THE 'TACTICS' OF THOSE IN POWER. We say, "They never let us live down our mistakes.." "They magnify them to SUCH GREAT DEPTH that it isn't fair." 

Yet, here most of you are.....not letting folks live down their mistakes. Magnifying folks mistakes to hide your OWN. Coincidence? I think not. You motherfuckers seem to thrive on the pain of others. No bullshit. It is 75% of what I see you RT and 110% of what most of ya'll Twitter/Facebook/gossip rag/etc/etc folks DO. Thrive off of the misery of others. That is what I am going to speak on today. The ABSOLUTE OBSESSION SOME OF YOU SEEM TO HAVE WITH OTHERS MISERY... 






I like jokes. I like to laugh at myself. I've done some INCREDIBLY stupid things that thankfully, only me, myself and I have seen. (No, I will not be arming you pompous idiots with any of that information. I'm not an fool. Fuck would I give you ammo for? FOH..) I DON'T MIND IT WHEN FOLKS POINT OUT OTHER FOLKS 'flaws, shortcomings, whatever' either but I don't want to hear the SAME SHIT OUT OF YOU EVERY DAY. That's what I see. Ya'll retweet, quote, recite, etc, some of the most MISERABLE MOTHERFUCKERS ON THE PLANET. I won't ask the rhetorical why either. I'm going to just go ahead and be just as gossipy/petty/thoughtless/fucked up and you and your idol and assume you are masking some sort of fucked up situation in your Life. That is the ONLY FATHOMABLE reason I can see you taking this much pleasure in other folk's misery. I can't see it it any other way because a NORMAL HAPPY MOTHERFUCKER wouldn't be running around here using the Twitter search function to see who is having the most fucked up day so they can 'feel better about their situation'.* So you (and the folks who are eating that shit up like a kid at McDonald's) must not feel good about your lives outchea. Misery loves company and all that ole other shit. That's YOU. Let me be clear too. I'm talking about ANY AND EVERY ONE OF THEM CLOWN ASS NIGGAS ya'll follow. If you want to take their dicks outta your mouth long enough to 'forward it to 'em', do so. I don't care.... Fuck 'em. All of 'em. I don't need friends out here...Speaking of which...

This bullshit pseudo "I only do it 'cause I care about folks..." shit ya'll got going on is just that. Shit. Pure, unadulterated shit. You don't give a fuck about folks so stop saying that shit. All you care about is that people actually like your miserable ass and if it comes at the expense of someone else and their pain, YOU ARE WITH IT. So miss me with the 'you are just trying to help' shit. You don't care. Talking about you are mofos 'friends' and shit. Nigga please. That's what is wrong with you niggas though. You couldn't pick a friend if friends came out out color coded with specific instructions on how to pick one. Clinging on to every miserable fuck who just HAPPENS TO HAVE GONE THROUGH THE SAME SELF INFLICTED BULLSHIT YOU DID. No wonder ya'll out here talking about loyalty. You aren't being loyal to yourselves by picking a TRUE FRIEND to begin with.


I just want to know when it became cool for dudes to act like girls and get this way? 'Cause it is mainly dudes. Digging ALL UP IN FOLKS PERSONAL BUSINESS by SEARCHING FOR IT**. Taking the most 'mundane' comments and committing 'The Reach" by fabricating an elaborate ass joke that sounds EERILY FAMILIAR TO THE LIVES THEY MUST BE OUT HERE LEADING THEMSELVES..*** Oh joy. To live in the Land of Make Believe. Ya'll niggas must have been those dudes who took the game of LIFE, put the little cars on different sides of the room and had Pre-Maury skits running abound about 'Who is the Father....". I also suspect that some of you must have played with dolls REAL HEAVY TOO but I'll digress on that. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm all for discussion of relationships, genders and the like but some of you 'arm chair' Black Twitter niggas make me wonder...



Was your Father present in your Life? "Cause no man is gonna stand for his son basically 'Henning'.


I look at you woman on here who do it ALL THE TIME the same. Your lack of a Father (or a real man being...well.. A MAN..NOT SOME TYPE OF PUNK..) shows too. "Cause he would tell you to calm all of that shit down too and worry about yourself. That ebb and flow is needed. @ mother/father dynamic. In some capacity and some of you either didn't have it, didn't listen to it when it was given or had a poor example of it.

I mean I see it all. I don't say much. I let ya'll niggas 'live' out here and all but don't think I don't see the ENORMOUS AMOUNT OF GIRLIE behavior out here. Then ya'll have the NERVE to ask folks this ignorant shit..




WHO HURT YOU?


That's funny because I often wonder the same thing. Who hurt ya'll to the point that on the DAY AFTER VALENTINES DAY, you are STILL RAILING on about 'lonely women' and shit? Out here worrying about 'sidechicks' and their 'gift options. Every time something happens, here you come to play 'Devil's Advocate' on some Negative Nelly bullshit? EVERY. TIME. Without. Fail. Nary an encouraging word. Ever. As soon as you see pain, you JUMP YOUR ATTENTION STARVED ASS on the side of 'joke' to make sure you and your fragile ass doesn't get caught up in the 'crossfire'. I see you outchea. Maybe your stupid 'friends' don't, but I do. You are just a little too quick on the draw there partna....


Look, nobody is saying be a Saint outchea. That's BORDERLINE impossible. We are all going to say or do some things that may trespass against others from time to time. But to make it your M.O. for the sake of hiding some of the pain you are CLEARLY feeling from the past (or hell..the Present as some of you are still trapped in your own personal HELL..) is pretty fucking sad. Chin up you pathetic pieces of shit. Not because I care either. I don't. I am just speaking my mind..Just like all of you will be 'claiming to do' if you happen to fall into what I just typed.. That's all.


*You already know what I mean by that. Motherfuckers are QUICK to point out that 'Well at least I am not like such and such or at least I don't have this..that and the third....." That's all about making yourself feel better for the bum shit you are doing. Period. You aren't fooling me with that shit. Go run that game to someone else...


** There is a case to be made for the folks PUTTING IT OUT THERE. I agree. We will touch that later. Trust me. Arming folks with ammo is something I do not condone. However, taking mundane shit and 'running with it' isn't something I clap to either.


***See what I did there?

(Video) This is NOT A GLORIFICATION OF WHAT TOO SHORT IS TALKING ABOUT..

I'm a fan of his music. Won't even SIT HERE AND ACT LIKE I AM NOT. Not a super fan but a fan nonetheless. I can't clap to this shit here though. Nope. I guess he isn't asking me to either though huh? He is ASKING OUR YOUTH TO DO SO. Interesting. Later on though, he will be telling them tales of not letting pussy ruin their lives though after BASICALLY TURNING THEM ONTO IT before they can handle the responsibility of what might happen when they shoot something outta their dick up in someone. Hadn't thought of it like that had you? I know... He won't acknowledge it either. I'm not writing this to 'change' his mind though. That nigga's grown. Fuck I'mma say to change his mind?


There is NO DENYING that things happen during these ages. Even things he is SPEAKING ON. Not sure how I feel about an ADULT giving out tutorials on a hip hop site though TO CHILDREN. He wasn't speaking to adults. He was speaking to CHILDREN. Surprised nobody thought about this a LITTLE MORE BEFORE IT WAS DECIDED TO GIVE HIM THIS PLATFORM.

Master taught you well Todd Shaw. Master taught well. @ the Jedi Mind tricks. Understand that I am not JUST NOW REALIZING THIS THOUGH. Oppressive tactics used against your own people. I'm not surprised though for as much as I ENJOY his music, I know to keep that BULLSHIT in its place. On the record. Unfortunately, I know some of you CANNOT DO THAT. Which is why I am fearful about the message being spread like this shit here is 'okay'..It isn't...

(Video) @WendyWilliams on Whitney Houston's death..

Very heartfelt and candid. Just thought I would give another side of Wendy's and Whitney's relationship since folks like to speak on 'that interview' in 2003...


This lets you know that Wendy is a real person.

(Words) My thoughts are with Bobbi Kristina....

First of all, R.I.P. to Whitney Houston. Lets start off there. No, I don't 'know' any of them. Lets clear that up too. smh. Doesn't stop me from feeling for them though. It's called being a decent human being. Some of you should try it out sometimes.


I have been relatively quiet on the subject, sans a few RTs here and there because my thoughts on the subject go IMMEDIATELY to her child. I actually CAN imagine how she is feeling (along with MILLIONS AND MILLIONS...AND MILLIONS OF OTHER PEOPLE WHO HAVE WENT THROUGH THAT..) so that is where my thoughts go. Not to 'who' is to 'blame' for her trials and tribulations (I'll get to that in a minute though. Trust me..). Not to the reality show. Straight to Bobbi Christina. I know she is in an amount of pain she has never even come CLOSE TO EXPERIENCING at a young age. While definitely not the first child to lose a parent early on in their travels to adulthood, she has a unique set of challenges ahead. Very critical time in her life. I've seen all the prayers extended towards her though and I am pulling for her in these trying times.


Here she is singing Adele's Someone Like You....




As far as speculating on who is to 'blame' for Whitney's 'downfall:


I think it is INCREDIBLY unfair to blame Bobby Brown for much of anything truthfully. Whatever issues that Whitney had were HERS (and she was fighting them as we saw). I find it VERY HARD TO BELIEVE THAT ONE PERSON is to blame for her issues. I just can't do it. Sorry. It is easy. It is convenient to blame him as we love to pass 'blame' on SOMEONE OR SOMETHING. I won't take today (or any other) to just GO IN ABOUT THAT. It is a disease. She had it. @ her addictions. She was a human being. The end.

Rather than sit here and dwell on the BAD ABOUT WHITNEY HOUSTON AND BE GOSSIPY, I'd rather just enjoy the memories. Rest in Power Whitney. Go on ahead and take you place in the choir up there*


 






















































*As for you folks on the Internet 'telling people how to mourn'....Save it. Folks are gonna do what they do. Some people have actual GOOD MEMORIES and they are tied to music and songs. Don't be mad that you don't have that connection to something. Or that you don't care about Life or treasure it. That's not our fault fam. Take that bitter beer face shit somewhere else.

(Video) If you are a kid, you will hate this. If you are parent you will love it. Dad shoots her laptop..

*tears* I mean he told her the next time she gets on Facebook and acts out what it was going to be. She didn't believe him. Bet she believes him now though.... (He probably didn't think 2 million people would see this video....wait..he is an IT person...HE KNEW FOLKS WOULD SEE IT...)

Would have taken it to this extreme? Probably not. But I understand.....(Chris Rock voice) I truly do.

I should 'correct' the title. Some of you who have kids would enjoy this. I know there are some of you out there who would NEVER cuss at your kids. Ever. Good for you btw. Hope it leads to a profane language free adult. (I doubt it but eh...)  I know that part of the video probably bothers most of you. I understand. I don't agree but I understand. He felt he needed to take a drastic step. He did. *








*I wouldn't get too in a tizzy about the gun.... He is on his land. Looked kinda flat too. I'm guessing he is in one of the more 'gun friendly' states. I wouldn't worry too much about him on that end. @ what kinda charges he might get.

(Words)You IDIOTS and "You're a (fav. insult..usually faggot) if you watch/do/eat/drink XYZ......

Every time you type that dumb shit, this is what I think about it..

I didn't want to dignify the bullshit by putting it in the title but the EXACT PHRASE IS USUALLY...


"You're a faggot if you do....(insert the activity).

This is my response @ me actually stopping the actions being questioned..

Now, I'm not sure WHERE this idea of you folks came from that you could 'shame' a person into not watching WHAT THEY WANT TO WATCH on TV or drink what they want but you can take that shit back to the 3rd grade cuz. It is MY TV. My cup. My plate.

So let me get this straight, LOOKING AT HER FOR 45 MINS MAKES ME A FAGGOT....

....meanwhile you like to watch dudes try to trap lil boys and girls on show with this dude...

 and doing shit like this....but want to question what I do with my time? Naw B...

I'm trying to figure out what kinda Life you must NOT HAVE that you are around here worrying about what a nigga is drinking, eating, or watching on TV. Especially when the 75% of you think Ciroc is 'Premium' alcohol, CAN'T BURN WATER and watch TO CATCH A PREDATOR like you are waiting to SEE YOURSELF ON THAT BITCH. Or my other favorite...judging what folks listen to, while your favorite rappers and producers are SAMPLING THE VERY SONGS YOU CALL 'SOFT'.. smh Ya'll cats slay me out here.

Oh and lets not forget about the BITCH BEHAVIOR that is LEAKING YOUR GIRL'S NUDES ON THE INTERNET when you break up with her/slut shaming/male/female bashing on the Net.  You folks 'champion' that shit too. Well some of you do and those of you that do SURELY can't tell me ANYTHING about a person's 'character, moral fiber or intelligence' if you are out here clapping to ANY OF THAT SHIT over my choice of drink, tv viewing, etc...

I guess now wouldn't be the time to be a snob and tell you fools to STEP YOUR TECHNOLOGY game up huh? @ the fact that SOME OF US WATCH MORE THAN ONE THING AT ONE TIME via computer, picture in picture and multiple electronic devices. I know you have the new 'iphone' (Or whatever team you are repping out here...lame as shit..) but you might need to go visit your 'resident' nerd and step THE REST OF YOUR technology game AND WHILE YOU ARE AT IT GET A BETTER ATTENTION SPAN. It seems some of you can only do one thing at a time and have the attention span of a gnat.








Ya'll do PLENTY OF QUESTIONABLE THINGS BUT LIKE THE SIGN SAYS UP TOP...I could give less than a fuck. All these 'wack ass FAKE RAPPERS' ya'll listen to and emulate? FOH. All that 'good food' you say you eat, all those wack drinks you, all those 'name brands you buy' or those OVERPRICED SNEAKERS YOU COVET, ALL THE TIME YOU WASTED BEFORE NOT LEARNING THINGS THAT YOU ARE JUST NOW LEARNING AND ARE PROUD OF THAT WE ALL ALREADY KNEW BEFORE NOW and you wanna QUESTION WHAT FOLKS ARE OUT HERE DOING WITH THEIR MONEY AND TIME?All that fronting and faking you do on these social networks and you want someone to be out here CONCERNED TO THE POINT THAT THEY WILL STOP DOING WHATEVER IT IS THAT HAS DRAWN YOUR 'IRE'?

You can sub in Twitter/instagram/whatever for Facebook.. Same shit...

Look ladies and gentleman, if you don't like what someone is doing on a social network, COOL. You can even 'say it'. Just don't get upset when someone responds with shit like what I have typed here. You have the 'right' to say it and I have a right to respond. I happen to think that worrying about what other people are watching (doing...drinking...who they listen to..) EVERY DAY is a sign of some insecurity on the folks who have to rail on about it EVERY DAY. Go see a therapist and get over your little Mommy and Daddy issues and spare the rest of us your bullshit dog. Go on ahead and let go of that time your "friends" clowned you for doing whatever they clowned you when you were little and stop trying to 'seek revenge' on every situation you see with a lil payback clowning. Take it up with them niggas man and leave folks alone. Men and women*. In other words, on the subject of what you and your IRRELEVANT ASS THINKS of folks habits.....

*I see ya'll out here too throwing those shots but then be the FIRST ONE UPSET WHEN SOMEONE TRIES TO PIN A GENDER ROLE ON YOUR ASS. REAL CUTE.... How's that 'choice' you made working out though? He still not calling you back eh? Still not paying child support huh? Bet he went to the Super Bowl party though. Him being that manly man that he is... Probably doesn't watch any 'reality tv' but he DAMM SURE showed his boys your nudes and put them on the Net... Yeah..I'm listening to your ass about what I need to do to 'be a man'. You SURE know how to pick 'em...GTFOH.. 

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As usual, one of my favorite bloggers NAILS IT.. This is why I don't enter 'Blogger' contests for OTHER SITES like that. For who...for what? - Ricky Watters.. 

Good job  Muireann!!! Go to her blog to read the rest..I only put a bit of it up here...

Wait. So essentially, bloggers are spending weeks touting for votes, posting links to the magazine’s site to get people to vote for them (oooh imagine the surge in traffic they must see for THAT), providing plenty of free promotion for them and what we get in return, if we win, is a chance to work…for free. But yet this whole thing is set up on the premise that they have so much admiration for bloggers.
If only admiration could pay your rent.
I’ve also seen brands running blogger competitions where in order to win the grand prize of a pair of shoes or whatever it may be, you need to write a post about how great the company is. Hmm, yeah, OK – well, in the blogging game, that’s called a ‘sponsored post’ and any blogger worth their salt charges for those, so excuse me if I’m not jumping up and down to promote you to my audience, that I’ve spent years building, in return for a pair of shoes. I value what I do a little more than that. But thank you for belittling it by making us jump through hoops and dance like circus clowns for you to show us a little recognition for what we do.
There are, of course, bloggers for whom these kinds of things are beneficial and I applaud these magazines and brands for attempting to embrace bloggers, but let’s do it in a meaningful way. If you truly value what bloggers are adding to the online landscape, why not make your prize a three month paid column on your website, for example – giving the blogger an opportunity to build their profile further, rather than just a one off guest post?
Heck, I don’t have all the answers, it just feels at the moment as though we’re being treated like the ugly little sisters of the media world. I admit, not every blog is great, but there are good ones out there that deserve more than scraps thrown their way. We’re moving in the right direction, let’s just keep the momentum going, keep working together – after all, with everything becoming more online-centric, you’re gonna have to embrace us sooner or later.
Now, let’s all hug it out.



I know my male audience so I have provided pictures for you to look at....but I had to keep the women's attention to so.....yeah...

(Words) Gender roles in relationships....and the delusional outlook some of you have on them..

I am not the FIRST PERSON to speak on this. Lets get that out of the way now. I'm almost POSITIVE that the vast majority of you have seen someone else address this. So I don't want you to think that I am 'breaking new ground' here. Rather, I am just reminding those of you who 'know better' and maybe informing those that are 'slowly coming to that age' that they have to at least entertain the idea of 'being in someone's Life long term'* This is going to be some hard reading for a particular sex for the first part but you should 'hang in there'. Both genders get taken to task. Trust me.


I have a particular problem with the way we currently use 'old school' gender roles in a newer society. Especially with what is commonly known as 'bitch work' to the 'old guard' of men AND man's work to women. I mean with more women out of the household than EVER BEFORE, I don't see how we can go around applying this title to things THAT HAVE TO BE DONE and the TIME PERIOD THAT WAS ALLOTTED FOR EACH PERSON TO DO THEM HAS CHANGED. It has. Changes are being demanded of the woman and the man in different ways and rightfully so.

I truly am amazed at the lack of common fucking sense some of you have in regards to this. If you are both working, nobody is home to do the work. How hard is it to comprehend that you might have to SHARE IN THE RESPONSIBILITY of the vast majority of these things? Not help... DO @ share. You might have to cook. You might have to hammer a nail in a wall sweetheart. 

Also, if the decision has been made that ONE OF YOU IS TO STAY HOME, again, how can ANY OF THESE TASKS LISTED BELOW BE SEEN AS TRIVIAL? Regardless as to what gender it is that stays home? 

I mean you DO REALIZE THE PERSON that 'stays home' never 'clocks out' right? Right? ESPECIALLY IF THERE ARE KIDS INVOLVED and they have either been staying at home for a long time or HAVE WORKED A REGULAR JOB THEMSELVES. They KNOW you aren't gonna come in and pick up where they left off at! They know that there is no place for them to 'just sit up and unwind' more likely. I don't see how you idiots don't see this from the outside though.The person that stays home is always encouraged to 'chase their dream' or go to school or something though. The trick to that is, since they can never 'clock out', when is that supposed to realistically happen without some help from the other person? It can't.... It is just like work too. Fast days. Slow days. They 'don't pay me enough for this shit..' days. Only there is no clock to punch out of... FOR THE DAY. 





Lets look at the type of tasks I mean when I say they are grouped via 'gender' for those of you who are still unclear...


Cooking. Dinner. Lunch. Breakfast (Except Sat. or Sunday depending on your household when most Fathers manned the kitchen..) 
Laundry.
Shopping.
Bathroom cleaning. 
Cleaning ANYTHING ELSE THAT NEEDED TO BE CLEANED.
Getting kids dressed. 
Helping kids with their homework.
Attending ALL SCHOOL FUNCTIONS whether you go or not..
Making sure EVERYONE IS STRAIGHT. 
Planning trips. 
Cutting grass
Responsible to try to fix/repair/replace pretty much anything that goes wrong. 
Painting. 
General yardwork...
I can keep going.....




Some of you minions out here REALLY STILL CONSIDER THIS WORK BENEATH YOU and as a result snidely label it 'women's work'. @ those things listed on here that are considered as such.


Oh sure you 'help' but you don't DO these tasks by yourselves which is a shame. Or rather, you feign that you can't. Which is even a bigger shame. These SAME MUNDANE TASKS that many of you claim on the Net daily that 'cats must have lacked at home' are the same ones you OPENLY refuse to do yourselves. Oh the irony... Ya'll are still looking down on FOLKS WHO STAY AT HOME, forgo/curtail/limit/chase it when they can their own ambitions and dreams for the most part to ensure their family is in the best position not only from a financial standpoint***** but just to provide the stability that you all claim most folks lacked growing up? Really fam? Really?




Now in REALITY, NONE OF THE SHIT I JUST LISTED IS 'WOMEN'S WORK'. That is a fallacy. ESPECIALLY NOWADAYS with the way things are shaped up. All of those things are part of RUNNING A HOUSEHOLD. Say it with me REALLY SLOW... Running. A. Household. So at this point, we should HONESTLY BE DROPPING THAT MONIKER when we speak on such things. I actually abhor the moniker. Yeah..there are some things that neither gender would 'prefer' to do but if the household is to run correctly, you should be able to perform 95% of its duties with NO GRUMBLING and with some level of skill.

The fact of the matter is though LADIES, there are some men WHO DO MORE THAN HELP. I see that being overlooked. Cats DO COME HOME AND HELP WITH THEIR KIDS HOMEWORK. They do 'pick up the kids' from wherever they are at. They DO COOK DINNER ON MORE THAN ONE NIGHT AND NOT JUST IN THE SUMMER TIME ON A GRILL. Not just out here grabbing pizzas either. Cooking food. Cleaning the house. Most of us actually were TAUGHT THAT by either a single mother or a MOTHER WHO KNEW THAT HER PEERS WERE RAISING DAUGHTERS THAT WOULD SOME DAY WORK ALONG SIDE WITH THEIR SONS. They adapted their parenting techniques accordingly so that their sons 'wouldn't need a woman to take care of them.."** So when you do find yourself a man like this, don't go around taking it for granted. Or trying to Nas that nigga on some 'Owe Me Back' shit for all the THOUSANDS OF YEARS WOMEN HAD TO BEAR THE BURDEN. It is not his cross to bear nor yours to nail him to. Keep that shit outta your relationship and concentrate on the good he does. Don't 'belittle' his clean up efforts. Don't take for granted he actually cleans the bathroom on the days you don't 'delegate it be done'...you know 'cleaning day..'. If he cooks dinner and it tastes good, damm sure let him know HOWEVER YOU SEE FIT*** Shit, if he is out here picking up kids, Krissy that nigga and prop.....my bad...let me stop playing. Just show some gratitude if he does that. You got yourself a good one as the 'general attitude' still seems to be..'That isn't for a man to be doing.."

I know men are doing 'cause I know folks who do it. Some of you men who are 'clowning' these dudes for doing it look pretty lonely over there too. I see you. I don't care what you say. Some of your 'singleness' is due to your absolute staunch stance of 'doing things like my Daddy/Uncle/etc' did 'em. Shit done changed...- Biggie.

I've seen some of ya'll with your kids looking like you just stepped into the Third Dimension. Looking lost like shit. Can't clean their nose properly. Can't even twist up a simple ponytail holder into your daughter's hair talking about you are a 'ladies man'..smh For shame cuz... Nobody said be Tim Gunn outchea but dammit, have some 'leeway' in what you 'won't do'. Your relationship will be better for it. Promise ya. Be the man you proclaim you want 75% of the Twitter ladies Fathers to be out here. Or have the potential to be. If you DON'T HAVE KIDS, that's GREAT. Doesn't mean you should be coming home putting your feet up like you aren't running around dirtying shit up too. Clean my nig. It is okay. You are in the comfort of your own home and you should care.






Yes, everyone will have their 'thing' that they do (Women with the hair..Men with the grass cutting...) but there shouldn't be too much of this talk outchea if you expect to 'make it'. 

Yes that means you Makeda..

'I'm not touching the trash.." shit like you are the Queen of Sheba is for the birds man. So IF YOUR MAN IS GONE FOR THE WEEKEND, you are gonna let the house just REEK OF CHICKEN GUTS AND OTHER ASSORTED THINGS 'cause your prissy ass can't tie up a bag, walk 20 feet to a CAN, open it up and PUT SOME TRASH IN IT? Yeah..see how many years that shit is gonna fly...


Don't chuckle it up Cornelius... Miss your spouse with all that...

Cornelius doesn't do laundry and bathrooms.... That's women's work... 



















So if your Lil Princess needs to take a bath AND YOUR WOMAN IS GONE, you mean to tell me your Neanderthal ass is actually going to let her sit in filth 'cause of your disdain for the bathroom cleaning my nig? @ your daughter. Word King? You are that stubborn huh? YOU BETTER NOT TWEET/FACEBOOK another status about niggas needing to be a 'Father to their child' then with that attitude fam....




Like I said, it all sounds good in 'theory' but today's circumstances just don't allow for you to have these 'hard lines' when it comes to gender roles. Go get some therapy for your 'childhood memories' of having to 'do whatever it is you did' and suck it up. Ya'll can't be out here 'claiming the rough childhood' as making you stronger but then turn around with these 'weak as water' arguments as to why you don't want to do them now.  Stop that out here. No wonder niggas are hitting up the divorce lawyer. Ya'll out here hustling backwards.... Lets be realistic when it comes to what we 'want' out here. I've seen MANY OF YOU BASH PRETTY MUCH EVERY CELEB out here that has gotten married/together with someone and they had these lofty expectations. Most recently Kim. Apply some of that logic to your own situation... Please. All jokes aside. ****


If I may, I would like to offer up this small piece of advice to anyone who finds themselves with someone like the folks I described up top in a negative light. It might be that time...@ reconsidering. The signs are there. Go on ahead and re-evaluate what is going on because they have pretty much already told you how they are 'going to be' regardless of the circumstances.. You ready for that? Not gonna tell you what to do beyond evaluate your situation. It is YOUR SITUATION. Do what you must. Just don't say 'Well..nobody broke it down for me..." That's a lie. I just did..


P.S. To the 'That's why I'm not getting married' crowd...these issues aren't just exclusive to married people..They afflict those who shack up too. Just saying....Shit changes when you live with folks... Which eventually, A VAST MAJORITY OF PEOPLE DO END UP DOING...



My point to ALL OF THIS IS that the days of the man going out and providing and the woman sitting at home doing her work are LONG GONE. Those Worlds have now intertwined. It is high time SOME OF YOU SEE THAT and factor that into your expectations. That's all. It may not go down EXACTLY how I typed it up top for some of you but it SURELY ISN'T GOING DOWN THE WAY YOUR GRANDMOTHER/GRANDFATHER'S DAUGHTER/SON HAD IT. That's for sure. It is different.






*Notice I didn't say married. Long term. It could include marriage but the same principles apply to 'playing house'. @ what most of you out here have claimed you will be doing as opposed to marriage..

**That was my mother. She taught me all the things she knew so that I wouldn't 'starve', not be clothed or live in filth in the event that I needed to handle those duties. She gave me the power to choose someone because I 'wanted them', not because they could 'provide' those things for me. Great if they do but I can do 'em myself. All the way.

*** That's another discussion for another time.. Use your imagination in the meantime though...(winks)


****I've been working on this topic for awhile and scrapped it a couple of times. The irony that it finally came together today after listening to a certain radio show last night is not lost on me though...


***** For you non-grown folks, finances are more than just about being able to afford the latest Space Jams man. Or that new snap back. Or that Mac or 'Droid. Cats have SEWER BILLS bigger than your car payment and your apartment rent combined. That's just one bill. In some cases, by the time folks finish paying for parking, the commute cost, food and wear and tear on a car, they are in the RED going to work. Never mind the costs of after care, the sick days for leave for children and all of that. We are talking GROWN UP FINANCES here. Not kiddie finances. So yeah..it is actually BENEFICIAL for one person to stay at home after you do the math. I've done it for folks before to really break it down for them. It is pretty eye opening.